How Did I Get To This Place?

From the Desk of Clearissa’s Command Center via My Soulful Life

Heey I’m Back!!!! Did you miss me? I hope so! I took last week off which means I did not do anything business related. And for those of you who blog/upcycle/DIY, etc. you realize how taking a few days off can totally change your rhythm. Consistency is the key to successful blogging/upcycling/DIY, etc. But every now and then, we need to take a day or two or five off to rejuvenate and to avoid burn-out. This was one of those times for me. Why you ask? Well I think I’ll tell you.  😉

Can you believe that a professed organizer allowed her home to become umm how do we say…“unorganized.” Well I have. What I have to do now is focus on the how’s, why’s and fixes of my uncharacteristic disorganization.

How Did I Get To This Place?

As long as blogging was just a hobby and I was not serious about developing an online presence and becoming a serious and respected blogger, things were easy. I could work my 9:00 – 5:00, I could blog when it was convenient, I could remain on top of my household and life was a breeze.

However; things began to change once people began to follow and comment on my blog posts. When this happened I felt a desire to keep them engaged and to hopefully attract others. Don’t get me wrong and please understand, I still do not have a prosperous blog…yet! However, I love blogging and now it’s serious business to me. The issue is I have not organized my time the way I should. I am a professional when it comes to organizing the time of others as a virtual assistant but I have allowed my schedule to totally get out of hand. Go figure.

Why/How Did I Get To This Place?

I am in this space because of a major change in my life and change is never easy to maneuver. Especially a traumatic change. Intellectually I understand why this change occurred, but on an emotional level I feel the sting of a life altering upheaval.

Again, here me when I shout!!!!! I understand the situation. Here me when I shout!!!!! That I know things will be fine. But also hear me when I whisper!!!!! I am an intelligent woman who is also a realist. And as a realist, I do not always believe everything that is shouted but I do believe the whispers. Most times the whispers are where the truth lies and it is MY inner voice, MY intuition, MY earthy connection, MY spiritual connection, if you will, that generally whispers the truth. And the truth is that I am not handling this change as well as I would like. But I also hear the whisper that it is time to do what needs to be done and move on. Finally, I hear the whisper.


In order to get back on track, I need to compartmentalize, which is not something I am good at doing. I, like a lot of the female population, am horrible at departmentalizing. I am naturally emotional and all things in my life touch and affect each other. But I have a plan! My plan…

  • Make a decision as to how to deal with my current situation. Once the decision is made, move forward with it. And if the decision is to let it go, then truly let it go and do not rethink it…check
  • Pump my breaks and enjoy and appreciate the down time…check
  • Find a way to accept what I cannot change but work towards changing what I can…check
  • Take a day or two or three and get my own house in order (when my personal space is not in order, my life is not in order)…working on that
  • That’s the important step in any process. Stop just sitting and get moving. Stop thinking about it and be about it. Once I’m moving things will happen. Once I’m moving, I will get back on track…working on that 

Good News (there is always a light at the end of any dark tunnel):

As a side note, while I was figuring things out, I was also updating my website. It is a total refresh. Again, I sort of fell into blogging and my first website wasn’t really conducive to blogging. Now that I have narrowed my online footprint, I think my new format matches my new direction in blogging. It’s clean and crisp and easier to maneuver. I hope you like it as much as I do. The new format was designed by Vanessa’s Desk and I am thrilled. There are still some tweaks that need to be made, and Vanessa’s Desk and I will continue to work through them.

You know I love your input. Be sure to leave a comment to let me know what you think of my new site format.

Have you experienced any big changes in your life lately? Share.

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11 thoughts on “How Did I Get To This Place?

  1. Vanessa says:

    I thank you for the “shout out” and I’m glad you’re pleased with the outcome. (And yes, we’ll keep tweaking. 🙂 ) I also know what you mean about letting yourself get behind in your own specialty. I write newsletters and handle social media marketing for several clients but my own always seem to be lacking. Must be universal. LOL

    Meanwhile, give yourself credit for handling this transition with strength and grace. I’m proud to call you friend.

  2. Pamela says:

    I have just recently started a blog that I would love to see some revenue at some point. I’m trying to stay focused and deligient because I love what I’m writing about and I hope my readers do too. Thanks for your post, it just reminds me that I’m not the only one out there with the same issues and that all is going to be ok.

  3. Clearissa Coward says:

    Awww thank you Vanessa. You did an excellent job on the site. I would recommend you to anyone! I totally get it about letting your own marketing get behind because you are so busy helping people like me. 😉

    And do know I’m proud to call you friend as well. So glad you stopped by!!!

  4. Clearissa Coward says:

    Hi Pamela. I’m sure there are many of us out here with the same issues as new bloggers. But like you, I love it so I’m not slowing down. I am not discouraged!!! Just need to stay on track and remember to take vacations. 🙂

  5. Harleena Singh says:

    Hi Clearissa,

    Lovely post indeed 🙂

    Congratulations on your newly done up blog, and it sure looks nice, though would love to see your picture/Gravatar somewhere on top 🙂

    Coming to the post, I can so well relate to all that you mentioned. It’s something I went through when I started blogging a few years ago, when I wasn’t a professional blogger too. Yes, anything works for hobby bloggers, but if we wish to take onto blogging seriously, we need to do a LOT – ask me! Lol…

    Everything needs time and attention, and the one thing I’ve learnt, as a mom-cum-homemaker-cum-writer-cum-blogger is that you have to take out time for everything and learn to strike the right balance to make it all work, or else something or the other is bound to suffer. And break are needed so never compromise on those 🙂

    I know about the organized home part too! Just glad my kids are a little older to handle their rooms, while we do up our, but it all does need to be checked and if not, it can cause clutter even in your work and productivity as we mostly work from home.

    Thanks for sharing this with us. Have a nice week ahead 🙂

  6. Mirika says:

    Hi Clearissa, great post and completely understand how changes can cause some chaos in our lives.

    Ive found that if I am emotionally unbalanced, then everything around me because even more so.

    Im in the midst of a big decision right now, lol, i was reading this and thinking, omg thats so me right now.

    My house is complete upheaval, including everyone in the walls of my home and the weight I feel from the responsibility of having to make a decision has left me paralysed for this last week, but a girls gotta do what shes gotta do.

    Good luck with your decision, I hope to read a post about how you smashed it and everything is on the up and up again 🙂

  7. Clearissa Coward says:

    Mirkika isn’t it funny how one upheaval affects one’s entire life!! I totally understand exactly how you feel. But you have to MOVE. Once you move things will get better! Keep me posted and I know you will make the right decision. We are both gonna be alright!! 🙂

  8. Barbara Charles says:

    Stay focused with life experiences is always hard. I know as I struggle with this every day as well. Since my daughter’s new baby, I haven’t been able to get back into the swing of things either. (She lives with me now).

    Anyway, it is hard and I understand how you feel as well.

    Good article.

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